Choices

I just extended a hand of friendship. Now I learn to detach.

Home and family are becoming a state of love after one has traveled far away from the physical and created ties in places unimaginable. My sister cracked me up today. She always does. I tell her time and again she ought to write a book. We were discussing a certain essay someone decided to write on a ridiculous topic based on “self confusion.”(1) She said to me that if I were ever to have a friend in this state of delirium, I should remember, in her very words that “Some people come into our lives and leave, so make room for those who will take us to a better level. You are like a tree; the delirious one is a leaf whom the wind will blow away. But I am firm, am the root your sister who is going nowhere.” 
 

My Paris friend called today, she is a delight. We talked of men. Rumpus believes that, “we're often reflected in our friends and especially our partners. I'm not sure you can really know yourself without that reflection. it can take months to learn something about yourself a stranger can notice in an instant.”  I like to think this is true. I have learned so much about me by relating with my friends. Another friend has this statement on his signature email, "Our choices,We make them then they turn around and make Us. Choose wisely." If I have said nothing else today, this says everything I am working at. Everyday I am more aware of the choices I make, they do turn around and make us in the end.

Ref. note: (1) A state of mind - usually a very unattractive state of mind which is in essence a delusion that one believes they know for sure who they are and refuses to learn anything else about themselves.  A general and or simple description can be a conscious decision one makes to be confused – am certain this is how my dad would describe it.